Hello everyone, I do hope you’re well.
It has come to my attention that a lot of people seem to be reliant on material things to make them happy. My children seem to be growing up in a want,want,want society where having the latest fahions and being able to take the perfect selfie seem priorty. It seems like nobody cares about the bigger picture and are becoming more self absorbed than previous generations. Don’t get me wrong I love being able to have a nice shiny smart phone and the odd new pair of jeans every now and then but it if I am honest they don’t make me happy, my tangible objects do not define my ultimate happiness.
There are few things that make me feel ultimate satisfaction including the love from my friends and family, being a parent, having a nearly pain free day and acheiving well. If I have a roof over my head, food in the cupboards, some sort of warmth and social interaction with others to combat lonliness I am gernerally pretty content. I don’t ever really ask for much and I don’t feel I am ever deserving of anything more than I have. But what happens when someone doesn’t even have the ‘basics’ in life. I have gone many a night not having heating, feeling like a polar bear in the Arctic Circle with blue lips to match and it is not a feeling I’d wish on anyone. I have nearly lost my home and have been penniless many a time to the point I’ve needed the help of others just to put food on the table for the children. In those instances I was not happy, far from it. I am so grateful to my friends and family and local community for helping me in those situations and I am always one for trying to help pay it back… and forward.
I do not have a lot of money to live off and it sucks but I know that there are others out there worse off than me at any given point. How often do I give to charity in the form of cash donations? Not much if I’m honest. Giving cash is important but being able to meet someones basic needs by donating an extra pack of 33pence pasta from my supermarket shop to my local Food Bank is far more worthwhile when I know the results can be near on instant for another human being. I’ve given blankets, toys and clothes to childrens centres and bought new toys for the childrens ward at the local hospital. It isn’t always objects or money needed when helping others. Often having someone to talk to can be of the greatest comfort for someone in any kind of crisis, even smiling at a stranger can brighten up someones day. You never know if everything could change for the worse, you could be the one needing that stranger to smile at you.
Recieving materalistic gifts in life is so lovely, of course everyone loves to be spoilt at one time or another but one of the greatest gifts is giving, not just giving what is wanted but helping to give and share what is needed. Random acts of kindness make the world such a lovely place to be in and more than enough times requires no money and little time. I know I can’t help the world at once but one step at a time I ould help those around me. It doesn’t matter if I don’t get a thank you sometimes just the thought of being selfless is thanks enough.
So please ask yourself next time your feeling disatisfied about not getting the new phone or dress you wanted :
What will make you happy from within? What will make others happy? Am I doing this for myself? Does it matter if my actions are not recognised by everyone?
Or simply, can I do more for others?